Dear Sovereign Redeemer and other friends,

Friends that will tell you the truth as they see it are a rare blessing. I have a friend like that in Malawi. The day before leaving Malawi, after an invigorating two weeks there, this friend asked me, “What are you taking home with you?” We had done some souvenir shopping the day before, so I asked for clarification. Souvenirs were not what he was asking about. He wanted to know what we had learned from the church there that we planned to share here at home.

It didn’t take me long to answer. Two things. First, their church drips evangelistic zeal. We need more of that, and time with those brothers helped our team make progress that can spread here. Second, they are starting to make waves in areas of sound doctrine, biblical manhood and womanhood, and homeschooling, and even though it is already costing them with family and friends, none of them are blinking. In Acts 20:22-24, Paul says this: “And see, now I go bound in the spirit to Jerusalem, not knowing the things that will happen to me there,  except that the Holy Spirit testifies in every city, saying that chains and tribulations await me.  But none of these things move me; nor do I count my life dear to myself, so that I may finish my race with joy, and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God.” It is not overly dramatic to say that these are unflinching sons and daughters of Paul. We need more of that kind of resolve and courage too.

Then I flipped the question on him. What should I be taking home with me, not in souvenirs but in lessons learned. It didn’t take him long to answer either. “Tell your young men to WAKE UP!” Huh? Clarification, please… Last November, this friend had come from Malawi to North Carolina and stayed with us for almost a month. He watched, and his observation was simply this: our young men have the luxury of not fighting for their faith every day. By contrast the young men of their church in Malawi, almost to a man, are first-generation Christians, many of them saved within the past year or two. They might be behind our young men in doctrine, but because they are swimming upstream every day, contending with active opposition against their faith at every turn, their spiritual muscles are hard. They are ready for battle because they are in the battle. Ouch. I think my friend’s observations extend beyond the young men.

I shared this at a joint gathering of Hope Baptist and Sovereign Redeemer, the two churches that sent our team. Afterwards, my eight-year-old daughter said this to me: “It’s not our fault we have Christian parents!” Fair enough. And I thank God for every advantage that is gained from a Christian heritage. There are many and those advantages are obvious enough not to need listing. But something needs attention when having Christian parents puts children at a disadvantage, and it has me thinking about my own spiritual muscles, and those of my children. Yes, I am as committed as ever to keeping our family “unspotted from the world” (James 1:27), and no, the answer isn’t throwing our children to the pagans under the banner of “salt and light.” But in between, second and third and fourth-generation Christians have to be ushered into the fight earlier, at the elbow of parents who have hard muscles themselves and a clear vision for hills to be taken for the kingdom of heaven, by God’s grace.

At least in Malawi it is abundantly clear that a war is on, and to whatever extent we have lost sight of that here, we are terribly deceived and desperately in need of this wake-up call (thank you, friend from Malawi). We have a great King and his kingdom is advancing, and to participate requires hard spiritual muscles.

So I leave you with this question: Into what part of the war to expand the kingdom of heaven are you ushering your sons and daughters, so that their muscles become a little harder and they become a little more ready for the day when you won’t be at their elbow? May God give us grace to enter the fray for the glory of God, bringing our sons and daughters with us wherever it is wise.